Want to know the biggest thing in the way of you and the life you desire?
Mindset work for me was solely about personal transformation for many years. But then it became professional: both in the mindset shifts I needed to undergo in order to be successful in my business and in the mindset work I helped my clients through as they purged their things.
I approach this work with my clients through the lens of their spaces. Your space is a reflection of yourself.
When you want to change your life, change your space.
However you come to it, this process of bumping up against and expanding your comfort zone is one that enables you to dig deep into beliefs you have that hold you back, beliefs that keep you from living the life you desire.
It’s so rewarding to have a lightbulb moment of awareness that enables you to progress the way you want in life.
So I wanted to share with you today another story of transformation. That ‘aha’ moment that allows you to experience your life more fully than you ever thought possible. These moments are are so rewarding to hear, so eye-opening in our own lives, to our own experiences. So read on for a personal look into what a shift in mindset looks like...
I have a good friend who has never been on Facebook, nor has she ever desired to be. And I applaud her for that.
However, her business was getting to the point where she felt like she needed to foray into that world--was hearing the advice over and over again that it would significantly help her in her marketing--something that she felt she really needed.
Business was slow, she needed the boost. She needed people to know she was out there, to know what she did, & how she could help them.
So she set up an account and it sat there for months, as she continued to resist putting herself out there in that way. She vehemently did not want to be on Facebook. Because her reaction was so acute, so visceral--and yet she really didn't know where it was coming from--she began to reach deeper to figure out what she was so scared of.
With some soul searching, she came to realize that she had some very deep, residual fears around a high school boyfriend who had been abusive. And she was scared that he would find her.
Now in the field of limiting beliefs--this is one that feels so very real. And at the same time, she was able to verbalize that it also felt silly in a way. She was a grown woman, happily married (to a really big guy :)). She didn’t have any rational fears around this past boyfriend finding her--even if he did see her on Facebook. What was he going to do? She didn’t consider it a possibility that he would literally seek her out.
And yet she had this deep, up-until-now, hidden fear, that she should not to put herself out there. That fear, when exposed, felt irrational--and yet, had been holding her back from successfully marketing her business--a business she felt passionate about.
See how easy it is to take an experience and form a belief around it that is so deeply buried in your subconscious that it takes 20 years to surface? See how those beliefs, however irrational in the present moment, will hold you back from living the life you desire?
There are lots of ways we hold ourselves back every day. Bringing these limiting beliefs into your awareness and allowing yourself to sit in that discomfort--is what allows you to move forward in your life, to not let these experiences hold you back from having everything you dream of.
In what areas of your life do you feel a strong resistance? Where are you feeling stuck, even though you really want to blossom, transform, progress? Those are the places to pay attention to.
That awareness is really the first and most powerful step. Once a belief is in your conscious mind, it holds so much less power over you.
Over the next week, I will have a series of stories and supports for you around this mind-set piece--which is really the first step toward any transformation.
When you are stuck, it is the key to unsticking yourself. When you desire something that you have yet to achieve--it is the boost you require to reach your goal.
For now, be gentle with yourself and sit with your discomfort when it arises… even though it’s uncomfortable.
In reverence,
:) Tenaya
P.S. I have a very exciting surprise I'll reveal to you next week--a great opportunity for you to figure out just how you’re holding yourself back--and what you can do about it. Stay tuned!
